DISRUPT LIFE SEXUALLY transmitted diseases: an unwelcome gift by Dear Ms. Mostly Dear Ms. Mostly, I think I have a sexually transmitted disease (STD). It is so embarrassing, and I can’t find the gumption to tell anyone, not even my doctor. I know. At my age, I should know all about sexually transmitted diseases. My husband and I divorced years ago. I was feeling lonely and I thought I would be brave and try this online dating. After a few tries, I met Hank and it was just wonderful to meet someone who made me feel sexy and desirable. It was great not to have to worry about pregnancy. Hank told me he hadn’t been with anyone since his wife passed away. Everything was going great but then, after a few times, Hank decided we should ease up a bit. Now, something is wrong. I am in a panic and Hank is not returning my calls. 32
Dear Super Trustful Dater, If you’ve spent time on dating sites you know EVERYONE lies! The photos are from their university days and don’t include a shot of the colostomy bag they wear (true story), or the 125 pounds they’ve put on since. It’s certainly possible that Hank has lied about where he’s been dipping his wick and what kind of bacterial soup lurked therein. There is absolutely no need to be embarrassed about seeking medical help as you may not even have an actual sexually transmitted disease (STD) but possibly a UTI from the renewed activity. Either way, look after your own body and don’t count on hearing from Hank with any useful suggestions. Beyond your body, you have to protect your heart from hurt and your bank balance from fraud. That’s the unfortunate side effect of a technologically driven dating scene which frustrates real, honest people and allows creeps to flourish. If you need help navigating these waters and, let’s face it, who doesn’t check out your local community college or community center for courses on safe online dating and how best to survive and thrive in this new world. Do You Have A Burning Question You Can’t Ask Anyone? Email your question with Ms Mostly in the subject line to info@ atfortyfive.com 33
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